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What I learned



I’ve learned – That you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.

I’ve learned – that no matter how much I care, some people just don’t care back.

I’ve learned – that it takes years to build up trust, and only seconds to destroy it.

I’ve learned – that it’s not what you have in your life but who you have in your life that counts.

I’ve learned – that it’s not what happens to people that’s important. It’s what they do about it.

I’ve learned – that you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I’ve learned – that you should always leave loved ones with loving words. It may be the last time you see them.

I’ve learned – that either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I’ve learned – that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at first, the passion fades and there had better be something else to take its place.

I’ve learned – that learning to forgive takes practice.

I’ve learned – that money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I’ve learned – that sometimes when I’m angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn’t give me the right to be cruel.

I’ve learned – that true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance. Same goes for true love.

I’ve learned – that maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you’ve had and what you’ve learned from them and less to do with how many years you’ve lived.

I’ve learned – that you should never tell a child their dreams are unlikely or outlandish. Few things are more humiliating, and what a tragedy it would be if they believed you.

I’ve learned – that no matter how good a friend is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I’ve learned – that it isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I’ve learned – that no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn’t stop for your grief.

l’ve learned – that just because two people argue, it doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and just because they don’t argue, it doesn’t mean they do.

I’ve learned – that sometimes you have to put the individual ahead of their actions.

I’ve learned – that you shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret. It could change your life forever.

I’ve learned – that no matter how you try to protect your children, they will eventually get hurt and you will hurt in the process.

I’ve learned – that there are many ways of falling and staying in love.

I’ve learned – that your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t even know you.

I’ve learned – that even when you think you have no more to give, when a friend cries out to you, you will find the strength to help.

I’ve learned – that writing, as well as talking, can ease emotional pains.

I’ve learned – that credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I’ve learned – that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon.

author: rogerknapp

Waves for Life.


Life is like dip yourself into the water at the beach. Waves after waves come and push you as you move forward. The deeper you go the more difficult your feet moves. Every two steps you take, there will be a big wave push you back. Sometime, you face a strong wave that almost drown you to the bottom of the water. But you manage to stand up and continue move forward. Trial after trial, you learn the pattern and feel comfortable with the circumstance. You learn how to swim, to survive, and have fun as well.

That how our lives is. You face problems, fell down, then manage to stand up. if you are lucky, you also learn how to enjoy it as you go.

Be U


We are actors and actresses who play the movies of our lives. Everyday, we put on different masks for our roles such as fathers, mothers, friends, bosses, and workers. We act the way others want us to be, not what we want. We got use to with our roles, we forgot who we really are.

When is the last time you play the role of yourself?
if you are happy, be happy. if you are sad, be sad. if you want to cry, then cry. Take a moment and be yourself. Even actors or actresses still need to take a break themselves. After all, we are human being, not the machines.


Life is simply as breath in and breath out. Because of its simplicity, we can’t accept it. We add in Personality, Mind, Feelings, and Emotions to create the complexity for ourselves. Like in the movie or the news, if the stories are not so dramatics we need to add more ingredients to spice it up.

Same for our live, when the marriage fail we feel despair and find a reason or someone to blame. When someone mistreat us we hold a grudge over and over. When the traffic jams we can’t stop cursing or angry at other drivers. The problem is not the circumstance, it is us who won’t accept the facts.

You can moan over your fail marriage but nothing will change. you can hold your grudge as long as you want but no one really cares. You can curse the entire world when the traffic jams and you are still stuck in the congestion. Open your arm and accept whatever life throw at you. The world is perfect as it is, all you need to do is ACCEPT IT.

Let go of your pain



Sometime, what hurts us the most is not physical pain but the mental pain. A cut can be heal by time. A heartache can haunt for a life time. Pain is a signal which tell us to stop what we are doing or take alternative action. However, most of us keep focus on the pain and create a painful situation to ourselves. We keep reminding ourselves the painful moment every time the wound start to heal. In the end, we stuck with our pain and never understand that we are the one who don’t want to get heal.

Pain is just a signal, a warning, a message. It just a signal to remind you not to make same mistake twice. If you throw the old mail after you read, why do you keep the pain with you. Let it go.

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Life is like paint your masterpiece. It requires skills and patient from the artist. Each stroke brings you closer to the finish line and each color brings beauty to the painting.The closer you are the more excitement you will get. But the most important thing when you are painting be patient and enjoy the process.

Start with slow and let the momentum to pick up.  Just remember, be patient like an artist finish the painting with each stroke at a time. if you feel tired, takes a break then back to work. Keep painting and stroking until your masterpiece appears. That is your reward in life.


Life is difficult because we create for ourselves. All the problems start with one word: Greed. We greed for money, love, and success. We tried too hard to climb up to the top of the mountain and reach our goal then realized there is no one else can share the happiest moment with us. Because during the process reaching to the top, we ignore all the things around us. We distant ourselves from our friend, family, and relative. We are like a cat chasing after the butterfly, focus too much to get what we want. In the end, we got tired, dissapointed, and have nothing but only memories from the past. That is the moment when you wish you can turn back time and can undo your mistakes. It has been too late…